What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?

I’ve spent the last few months convincing myself that this was fate. Life was suppose to turn out like this.

We’re all inundated with the belief that we’re suppose to be okay with not knowing how or what our lives are going to turn out like. We’re coerced into spending almost $100,000 on our education, which is most definitely an investment in our future. Oh, and that living at home is a stepping stone and not a ending point.

I’m getting scared– no, I’ve been scared.

I wake up everyday feeling like I didn’t sign up for this. I was destined to be a nightly newscaster or hairstylists, like my younger self frequently dreamed of.

I shared my fears like I often do with my grandmother the other day. She had an unlikely response:

What would you do if you weren’t afraid ?

I really started to think about it. I decided to compile a list of things I would do If I stopped feelings so sorry for myself.

It’s a growing list, but here is the start:


1. Learn to dive. Years of swimming lessons and I have yet to pull it off.

2. Dye my hair Kim K. blonde.

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3. Hand write letters to everyone who has done wrong by me. (Who wouldn’t?)

4. Eat red peppers, onions and mayo.

5. Take a dance class.

6. Open a boutique.

7. Start an organization that focuses on professional development and life skills for inner city kids.

8. Endorse politicians. (It’s too risky in today’s pc society)

9. Be honest and open with my feelings in a relationship.

10. Live in a different country.

11. Spend New Years in Paris.

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12. Go to beauty school so I can wax my own eye brows and receive product discounts.

13. Tell someone when they’ve hurt my feelings

14. Host seasonal viewing parties for all of my favorite shows, even though there is a possibility that no one will show up.

15. Send emails and letters when I’ve gotten really great service (I don’t know if this is a fear or just laziness).

16. Post every shopping purchase online (just because I love my purchases that much).

17. Not settle for a job that I’m not happy with.

18. Also, not settling in relationships just because I like the person.

19. Delete every social network.

20. Tell a fake friend that I actually hate them.

21. Get rid of the fear of judgement

22. Stop reading my horoscope every night at midnight.

I’ve heard that our fears mean we’re living. Life is about screwing up, starting again, and being scared shitless the entire time.

This is no longer just my list of fears. It’s my bucket list.

Now, I’ll ask you: What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

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Breaking Up With Brands

The other day I sat in a store covered in paisley print and felt like I was making the biggest decision of my life: Should I get the Lily planner or the Kate Spade planner?

My breath was constricted. My face felt warm. This was major anxiety. I was overwhelmed, and my mind was racing with…

“Lily is so overdone and way cliche.”

“But Kate is the new Michael Kors. She will soon become old.”

As I almost made a decision, I had a moment of clarity: Why was I even considering spending $40 on a planner, when I love using a giant monthly one I buy at Target– and for half the cost?

Had I really become that materialist?


It’s been driving me nuts. Sure, Lily Pulitzer may have somewhat of a cult following and Michael Kors may be the new Coach, but I have a hard time believing that we actually love what we’re wearing.

I don’t blame the brands. I blame us, the consumers.

It’s a classic case of, “It’s not you, its me.”

I’ve since put myself up to a challenge. I’m going to try to stay away from big brands (well, unless I do love what I’m buying). It’s like dieting, except it’s not food, it’s brands.

I’ve started shopping at boutiques featuring brands that we’re not acquainted with. I’ve found that I get more compliments on these items, and they’re normally more stylish.

Taking a step away from a feeling we get from wearing something isn’t an easy task. But, If you think about it, some people could really use an extra $40 a month to take care of their families (If you’re still following the planner image).

I suppose it’s more of a compliment to these brands. You have given us a feeling and a desire to buy and wear your merchandise. We feel a sense of belonging in you, kudos!

This isn’t to say that you should stop wearing brands entirely. I just challenge you to wear something because you love it, not because it’s a $40 planner that everyone has to have.

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Kate Spade 2015 Planner

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Lily Pulitzer Planners

The Glitter Plan: How We Started Juicy Couture for $200 and Turned It Into A Global Brand

The Glitter Plan: How We Started Juicy Couture for $200 and Turned It Into A Global Brand aka my bible.

The newest addition to the once iconic brand, is a tell all from the entrepreneurs of our Juicy lifestyles.

I was Juicy obsessed for a time in my life, as most of us probably were.

I remember taking the first $350 I earned at the ripe age of 14, and throwing it at the cashier for a Juicy bag. I slept with the bag every night. Today, It still hangs in my closet.

Embarrassingly enough, my group of friends in middle school even referred to ourselves as “The Juicy’s” (I know).

Pamela Skaist-Levy and Gela Nash-Taylor created the brand in 1994 with $200 in a California apartment:

The didn’t go to Harvard Business School– or any business school– and rather than coming up with a complicated business plan, they had what they called the Glitter Plan: using their instincts and being very hands-on to come up with clothing they knew women would want to wear and finding ways to reach their market.- The Glitter Plan

 

Levy and Taylor’s story is one that I envy.

They took their dreams and found a way to make a living off of them. The women stayed true to their brand throughout the whole process, down to their fun office atmosphere, title-less employees and of course, “fit, fabric, and color.”

The brand thrived for years. Every celebrity and every one of our neighbors was wearing Juicy in the early 2000s’. Sadly, the brand became too big and, in my opinion, was a victim to corporate America. The market was oversaturated with juicy sayings, colors and tracksuits. When Levy and Taylor had instincts to change a line in the brand, the suits at Liz Claiborne shot down their suggestions with market research; this led to its eventual failure.

The women are careful to note that as entrepreneurs you must rely on instinct and not market research, as the general public doesn’t know what’s going to be hot next. The book is full of their real story of creating a brand, its ultimate downfall and the lessons they learned. It’s the text for the millennial generation of entrepreneurs– those who don’t really care about rules or extensive plans.

The story has a sad ending: Juicy will be hitting Khols this fall.

Juicy Couture wasn’t the end for Levy and Taylor. They’ve recently launched their new brand, Pam & Gela.

I’ll forever keep my velvet black bag. I’ll never forget the brand that influenced my awkward years and helped me find a love for fashion.

Love you, G&P.

 

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The Juicy Bag I spent my first $350 on.

Oh, and pick up your copy of The Glitter Plan, you won’t regret it.

But Why Wear A Headband When You Can Wear A Turban?

We’ve all woken up too late and had no clue what to do with the baby hairs and greasy hair.

It’s literally a moment of panic.

The go-to is normally to dust off a headband. My new go-to is a turban.They’re stylish, chic and a change from the norm.

I’ve purchased a few at Ulta from the Elle line for around $13.

Go ahead, give it a try.

Etsy

Source: Etsy

Style Umbrella

Source: Style Umbrella

Fashion Gone Rouge

Source: Fashion Gone Rouge

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Source: My Closet

 

I’m Known For Having Big Hair

I got way too involved with Pinterest hair tutorials last night.

I have very thick and rather large hair. In fact, I’m known for having big hair.

It’s difficult to find an updo that works for me. I do love wearing my hair down but sometimes I want to change it up (see what I did there).

Well, this is as far as I got.

I quickly discovered that fishtailing is much too complicated, and bobby pins don’t actually hold your hair up.

This was easy enough! I’m not sure if I’ll wear it anywhere meaningful–perhaps the grocery?


 

Step One: Place a headband around the crown of your head.

Step Two: Take the hair into a ponytail but don’t actually wrap it.

Step Three: Place the pony tail contraption into the headband and tuck your hair around.

Step Four: Voila!

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P.S. I hope y’all like my selfies.

Out On The Edge You See All Kinds Of Things You Can’t See From The Center

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I live without regret– well, a few.

I live fearlessly, but it’s not without very much fear. I find myself doing things that leave me tremoring with fear– and literally tremoring (an anxiety I developed after a few messy divorces).

I live in fear of regret.

This fear has gotten me into a little trouble, but also brought me many opportunities and moments I’ll never forget.

Like Kurt, I like to live on the edge, you see things you couldn’t have seen from the center.